Negative Nelly?
We have hopes, dreams etc… and usually we get excited and want to share them with those closest to us. What happens when you have someone in the mix who is a negative Nelly? If you share it and they then are booing it all every step of the way it can down your morale and discourage you from moving forward. If you don’t share and then they find out then they get offended for being kept out of the loop.
nnnnI am facing that very situation where one person I generally share what’s going on, plans etc..is a downer pretty much, so how will I handle this. When they ask I can say that I am waiting to here back on specifics and right now just have a general idea of where it’s going. I am not lying because I do, but nothing to say that I have to divulge all the details right now. When dealing with a negative person that you for whatever reason can’t avoid and they do care, they just are Negative Nellies you have to be strategic in what you share and perhaps share it in pieces. Nurturing our hopes, dreams etc.. especially in today’s world is not easy and it’s easy to be discouraged, so it is important to be with a tribe of people or even one person that regularly encourages you while also helping you to stay grounded. It’s all about balance and even in my situation now in terms of a new place I have options and I have to look at the long term, financially and in terms of insurance etc…, so I have to balance any grand dream of a grand home with the reality of the financial situation I have currently. Does that mean I can’t have a lovely home and later on expand to an even bigger place as financials improve? Of course not. Want, Need and current reality all have to be balanced out for long term well being.
nnnnWill I still have contact with Negative Nelly? Yes, as they are kin fold. Hoever, I have learned to parcel what info I give, how much and when. When possible I do suggest:
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